One of the most difficult feelings to face is the feeling that you are notreciprocated, that you are not valued enough or that you are begging for love, because these sensations are the element that drives depression, anxietyandlow self-esteem.
Therefore, on a psychological level, the person begins to experience a series of situations that can also affect his physical condition, in addition, alters the other aspects of his life and influences the normal course of the relationship.
For these reasons, in the following article youwill be able to know what begging for love is about, the most common characteristics so you can identify it and the best recommendations so that you can overcome it in the best way.
What is begging for love?
Begging for love refers to the actions, words and efforts that a person makes to get the attention of another without obtaining a favorable result in return. This happens many times, when in a relationship one of the two haslost interestin the other, but the other person continues to fight to get it.
Usually, the fact of begging for love becomes unfavorable physically and psychologically for those who do it, since they become dependent on their partner, feel slighted and only get disappointed in love, therefore, love relationships begin to fade.
How do you know if you are begging for love?
The following situations are the most common in evidencing that you are begging for love, it is imperative that you learn to recognize them so that they do not become a major problem, since, in the long term, they can affect your mental health.
You’re always the one who takes the initiative
If your partner is not interested in creating new projects together, for the personal fulfillment of both, to grow economically togetheror simply to improve certain elements of the relationship, but instead you are the one who always has the initiative and you do not receive a response from him, it means that you are facing a person who does not feel the slightest interest in you.
You give everything and you get nothing
Usually, when people are in love, their main interest is to give their best in all aspects of a romantic relationship.
Giving everything and receiving nothing in return shows that you are begging for the affection and importance that your loved one should have regarding the union and the bond they maintain.
You are the one who seeks and calls
Currently, communication has become an easily accessible means thanks to new technologies and the different devices that exist to communicate.
To highlight: Being the only one interested in searching, sending a simple message or calling the other person, is synonymous with a lack of emotion and interest on the part of your loved one.
This is due to the fact that one of the main distinctions of individuals when they fall in love is that they always want to be in communication and aware of the things their partner does when they are not around, so the lack of communication is an aspect Negative in any relationship.
Do you feel lonely even when you are accompanied?
One of the most difficult sensations to face, being in a sentimental relationship, is feeling that you are alone even when you physically have a person accompanying you, this means that you are being part of a union that has lost the fundamental basis for can be sustained, be it love, respect or interest.
Sadness, anguish and insecurity are part of your day to day
To be satisfied with a couple’s union, there must be full assurance that you are sharing your life with the right person. If there are emotions of sadness, pain, anguish, despair or distrust , they are signs that show you that you are begging for love and that your partner is not happy enough by your side.
There are no signs of affection and affection towards you
Showing affection, being affectionate and thoughtful are one of the main signs of love that are evident in the relationship. The lack of these,contempt, physical and emotional distancing, show that something negative is affecting your bond with the other person and therefore, you beg for the affection that you would like to receive.
Recommendations to stop begging for love
For the pain to pass soon, it is important that you know what a wonderful person you are,what you are capable of achieving and reaching if you stop begging for love. Therefore, below you will know the best recommendations so that you can overcome this situation as soon as possible:
Strengthen your self-esteem
The Brazilian magazine Scientific Window , published an article where it describes that to strengthen self-esteem, you must first of all have enough courage to accept the adverse situation and do everything in your power to overcome it, at the same time that you strengthen yourself by Lived experience. (1)
On the other hand, the fact of strengthening your self-esteem will improve the health of your body and the functioning of the different systems that make it up, it will regulate panic or anxiety attacks, it will make you feel more Confident in yourself and above all, you will value your feelings above any other situation.
accept the situation
Accepting that your partner no longer feels the same affective feelings for you is a complex process but not impossible. Above all, you must be aware that for your mental health it is much more important to give yourself the opportunity to close a cycle where the fundamental element, which is love , no longer exists.
Evaluate if it is worth insisting with that person
In certain situations, assertive communication can manage to restore the damage that remains in the relationship.
Note: It is important that you evaluate all aspects of the relationship and reconsider whether it is feasible for both of you to maintain it, because you may make the wrong decision and that action could hurt you even more.
Be firm with your decisions
The thing that is sometimes the most difficult to carry out is to remain firm in decisions regarding relationships. This happens because of the need that you will feel to get back together with that person, to communicate, to know how she is doing, and the anxiety that you may experience due to the change that you have just assumed.
In this sense, it is imperative that you remain focused on the fact that the decision you made is the correct one and begin to focus on your well-being, so that the process will be more bearable and easier to accept.
Free yourself from guilt and grudges
Guilt and grudges will only make you feel worse about yourself. The negative experiences you have from what you lived with that person, you must transform them into positive so that you can grow as a person and free yourself from all the damage you have suffered.
Likewise, forgiveness exercises are extremely important, thanks to the fact that they help you to heal the breakup faster and trigger the painful processes that are characteristic of all sentimental separation.
give yourself time to heal
Above all, distance yourself, this will help you move your mind away from any negative thoughts you have about the situation you are going through. Time is the most important factor for sentimental healing processes, since it will help you recognize that begging for love did not help you psychologically.
Don’t be afraid of loneliness
“. Try to find yourself, enjoy those spaces alone that you can dedicate to reconnect with the things that really interest you and give meaning to your life.
In turn, the periods in solitude provide you with the necessary time to heal the experiences you have lived, overcome the fact of having begged for love and be able to live fully.
Value your qualities and virtues
The certified international coach Inma Brea (4) details in her “Practical guide to self-love” that “Personal value is the qualitative concept you have about yourself in reference to your own values” (5) in addition, of the way in which you can take advantage of that in terms of what you are capable of doing.
Therefore, it is important that you begin first of all, value yourself, take care of your physical and emotional integrity, while putting into practice the sense of belonging for the qualities and virtues that define you so that you can be someone better.
Share with those who love you
, because it is the real love you need to know that you can get ahead, increase your self-esteem and feel greater security and confidence in yourself.
Note: Being social will also help you keep your mind away from negative thoughts, you will have the opportunity to meet new people and enrich your social circle.
Focus on your goals and objectives
Take advantage of the time you have now, to devote more attention to your tastes and interests. The goals and objectives are usually overshadowed by the constant dedication that is given to Save a Relationship where you are only begging for love.
Therefore, you should focus on resuming the activities that make you feel better, help you grow professionally, and give your life a better meaning.
Enjoy recreational activities
Outdoor activities, unexpected trips, contact with nature, sports and all kinds of recreational activities help you raise your self-esteem.
At the same time, it frees you from all stress derived from begging for love, in addition, this increases the functionality of your body and improves your mental and physical health.
Claim what you deserve
Fostering self-love is fundamental in every person and even more so after having completed a loving relationship. The value you have as a person should not be overshadowed by any situation, on the contrary, you must strengthen it so that you trust yourself, be sure of the things you want and keep your spirits up.
Key takeaways:
- Begging for love refers to the actions, words and efforts that a person makes to get the attention of another without obtaining a favorable result in return.
- There are several ways to tell if you are begging for love. Among them is always having the initiative, giving everything without receiving anything in return, feeling alone even when accompanied, there is no sign of affection or affection towards you, among others where the other person does not show any interest in you or your well-being.
- To stop begging for love, it is important that you strengthen your self-esteem, know that you are a wonderful person capable of achieving and achieving many things without having the company of another person by your side.
- Fostering your self-love and taking time for yourself will help you strengthen yourself as a person and will prevent you from begging for love and if you are going through a breakup, this will also help you overcome it.
University Professional in the area of Human Resources, Postgraduate in Occupational Health and Hygiene of the Work Environment, 14 years of experience in the area of health. Interested in topics of Psychology, Occupational Health, and General Medicine.