Emotional pain: what it is, causes and ways to overcome it

Lovebreakups, farewells, divorces, lack of employment, loss of a loved one and economic problems, usuallymake you feel apathetic, with low self-esteem and sometimes sick, this is because you could be suffering fromemotional pain.

Although, thiscondition is psychological, the strength that the mind has on the rest of the systems that make up the human organism, makes you begin toexperience all kinds of ailments, making you believe that you really suffer from a serious disease.

In this sense, below you can learn what emotional pain is about, its causes and most common effects, in addition, an effective list of recommendations for you to begin to overcome it.

What is emotional pain?

Emotional pain are thestates of suffering, anxiety, anguish and in certain cases, depression, which a person somatizes as a physical ailment or illness. This type ofpsychological condition is formed from adverse experiences that do not heal accumulate, thus bringing a feeling of pain.

In turn, emotional pain serves as a response to negative situations, however, when they lasttrigger other types of diseasesat the psychological level and in extreme psychiatric cases.

Note: Usually, the personconsults with specialistsof another nature looking for the cause of their physical ailments but emotional pain is diagnosed by a mental health specialist.

Causes of emotional pain

The most common causes that arise due to emotional pain are mainly linked to family, love relationships and the economy, however, it also includes demotivation due to the presence of a serious illness. Learn more below:

Family, sentimental and work conflicts

The human mind, when being affected by factors as important as they are: family, love relationships and work, begins to create negative environments , causing you to judge yourself, lose Confidence in Yourself and your self-esteem drops considerably.

Said conflicts bring with them more than stress and anxiety for wanting to solve them, so that emotional pain begins to become present, thus generating insomnia, difficulty concentrating and a series of symptoms that, if not treated in time, can generate other pathologies.

Diseases

Diagnoses of Serious illnesses tend to create emotional downturnsin those who suffer from said health condition and also in those close to them. All of this is due in certain cases, due to fear of pain, physical suffering and also fear of death.

Important:Usually, specialists in the area of health recommendPsychological Support to people who receive diagnoses of serious pathologies, as well as to their closest relatives, as a method of coping and acceptance of reality.

loss of loved ones

Grief, as part of the Psychological processes , involves a process of denial, COPING , acceptance, and overcoming, when any of these elements are not met, the person remains so immersed in emotional pain due to the loss that they begin to Physically Somatize . .

In this case, depression and anxiety disorders are present, locking the person in emotional pain, which, if not treated in time, can trigger even greater psychological pathologies.

Effects of emotional pain

Emotional pain, like any psychological condition, directly affects the health and physical state of the body, that is, the person who is going through some type of suffering begins to somatize it in different ways. Here are some of the most common:

Stress, anxiety and depression

Stress, anxiety and depression are some of the effects with the highest incidence in emotional pain, this is because the instability of the person’s emotions together with states of worry, anxiety or anguish, create a negative climate that leads to constant stressful and depressive situations.

That is, individuals who experience emotional pain tend to be more vulnerable to suffering from some type of anxiety or depression because the different thoughts that surround them and the state of negativity in which they are involved make all aspects of their life life begin to be affected.

For example, it is common for people who have relationship problems, are going through a love breakup or divorce, their performance at work or studies begins to decrease, this brings with it stressful situations.

Note: Uncertainty is one of the moods that people who suffer from emotional pain most often feel, due to the constant thoughts of the future combined with the internal fears of each individual that bring depression.

Humor changes

The suffering of feeling emotional painmakes your usual emotions begin to unbalance. The most common thing is that you feelapathetic, sad, with low self-esteem, you can also experience anger both towards yourself and with third parties immersed in the problem you are going through.

Note: Sudden mood swings are your body’s way of telling you that emotionally something is not right and if these states are prolonged they can affect your mental and emotional health.

Insomnia

An investigation carried out by the Department of Psychiatry and Medical Psychology of the Clínica Universitaria de NavarraPamplona(1) , indicates that one of the reasons why people suffer from insomnia is due to changes in emotional behavior, stress, divorce , among other situations on a personal level.

In this sense, insomnia is shown as a response to emotional pain, due to the large number of thoughts that a person generates when they feel incapacitated, dazed, anguished, afflicted or in a depressed state, therefore it is difficult for them to fall asleep.

Headache and muscle

When you are going through emotional pain, it is usual for your head to hurt and your muscles to be tense, this is mainly because your mental system is low and the different thoughts that you experience make your body in conjunction with your mind, make you feel sick

Gastrointestinal upset

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In turn, the researchers detail that diseases such as gastric ulcers, colitis and irritable bowel syndrome are the Most frequent conditions in people with low self-esteem who do not have a good diet or the same psychological state affects their appetite. .

Note: Young people are considered to Be the most vulnerable due to the different mental processes they experience during their behavioral development, however, adults and the elderly are not exempt from suffering from these health conditions due to emotional problems.

sexual dysfunctions

The Mood is one of the main elements involved in sexual problemstag. The reason is because low self-esteem, depression, suffering, economic, love or work problems or situations make the person focus more on her concerns, giving way tosexual inactivity.

You should know: It is commonly believed that sexual dysfunctions are only generated in men, however, women can also suffer from sexual dysfunctions , which leads to emotional pain directly interfering with their libido.

apathy and isolation

It is usual for the person who experiences emotional pain, becomes apathetic, distant and avoids contact with therest of society, this is often thecase for fear of being judged, that is, it is the construction of a method of defense against external opinions that may further affect their emotions and mental health.

How to overcome emotional pain?

Emotional pain Can become a life experience where you can learn from suffering and Transform it in a positive way to strengthen the Basic Emotionsof the affected person. Below you will discover a list of the best recommendations to overcome emotional pain:

Recognize the situation and identify emotions

The main thing in any healing process where emotions, self-esteem and Psychological processes are immersed , is to recognize and accept the adverse situation that you have experienced, take it as an experience and begin to use Resilience so that you can transform your life and let others Negative experiences aside.

Express and drain feelings

Draining the feelings and expressing what you feel is the key so that you can clear your mind of bad memories and all the negative experiences that you have lived, in addition, this helps to free yourself from all those situations and give way to an energy even more positive.

Tip: If you don’t feel confident expressing your thoughts or emotions to another person, you can start writing a diary or short stories , this can help you capture what you feel and overcome emotional pain.

Learn to modify emotions

Knowing how to identify, modify and control your emotions will enable you to transform any negative feelings that may affect you in the future, and it also helps to develop your mental strength , which will make you an emotionally stable and self-confident person.

Avoid judging and blaming yourself

Blaming yourself for the situations you have experienced will only make you feel worse. Therefore, you need to learn to recognize adversities and obstacles as life experiences for your personal growth, so you will put emotional pain aside and begin to know the benefits to live in well -being .

Focus on solutions

After you have accepted the situation and recognize that you are suffering from emotional pain, it is necessary that you begin to focus on solutions to change the disagreement you are experiencing, always creating positive environments that lead you to improve yourself.

Tip: Make a list where you highlight the actions as options that you are willing to execute to transform emotional pain and overcome it.

Do distracting activities

Physical or outdoor activities, practicing a sport or going on a trip, are the Most useddistractive methods to close a cycle, clear the mind and start a new one without any type of emotional pain, also, being in contact with nature or adopting a pet can help distract you.

Take care of physical health

Emotional pain directly affects your physical health , for this, it is imperative that you Consult a doctor and undergo a general evaluation, so you will be totally sure that you enjoy good emotional and physical health and you can give way to a life more pleasant, calm and positive.

Ask for help if necessary

It is important that you keep in mind that emotional pain must be evaluated by a specialist in the area of mental health , he is the one to give you the necessary tools according to your state of mind.

Important: If you notice that you have been experiencing the aforementioned effects for some time, we recommend that you seek help from a professional.

Key Findings

• Emotional pain is a mental condition that is reflected shortly after having gone through an adverse situation that has not been overcome.
• The Most frequent causes are: family losses, couples, family, economic and work problems.
• This condition Can Somatize Illnesses on a physical level, such as headaches, insomnia and stomach upsets.
• The main recommendations to overcome it is to accept the situation and express your feelings.
• Seek help from a specialist if you consider that your emotional pain has been prolonged and you do not think you will be able to overcome it on your own.